In many ways, traditional networking is a lot like dating.
It’s a part of life you get more tired of the older you get – especially as it gets harder to find people who are looking for the same things you are.
Networking events are at the center of this problem. As David Siteman Garland put it, “Networking events are like nightclubs, because most people there are just looking for a professional one-night stand.”
The most basic problem with traditional networking events is that they are mixing bowls for professionals who are there for different reasons. No matter how you slice it, everyone in the room is focused on his or her own personal agenda – whether it be signing up a new client, creating awareness for their business, or connecting with someone in the hopes of developing a mutually beneficial relationship.
“Your network predicts nearly every opportunity (career, platonic & romantic) you’ll have in life.” – Paul C. Brunson
If Paul’s quote is accurate, some of us are in big trouble. Although the internet and social media platforms have expanded our reach tenfold compared to decades past, it still feels smaller in terms of dating.
Is it because we’ve somehow found ways to shrink our ‘vast’ networks or because we don’t leverage their full potential? Is it due to applying unrealistic (and unnecessary) rules to our dating pool? Or, is it just nature’s way of forcing us to work harder for love? Do we simply enjoy having an inordinate number of ways to (over)complicate our dating lives?
Instead of having your network work against you, here are 4 ways to make your dating network work harder for you!
I remember being at a crossroads in my life. Some would call it a rut, where I felt like I just couldn’t get ahead. I thought I was outshining everyone but not getting noticed. I was out-talking everyone but not getting heard.
Then, God began to use me as a mentor to a few young men and it changed my focus. I realized instead of trying to outshine and out-talk everyone else, I needed to strive to out-serve. That’s what has made all of the difference.
It was in serving others that I realized what healthy relationships should be comprised of. Let’s talk about how you can evaluate your relationships with the 2 ingredients necessary for any successful relationship…
For the past few years, I’ve been in that phase where a large percentage of my social circle is getting married and having babies. While some single friends are struggling to adjust, I would venture to say I’m doing just fine.
I’m not weeping in a corner wondering what has become of my so-called life, but I’m also not doing “I’m single & lovin’ it” cartwheels down my driveway, either.
I’ve attended enough beautiful weddings to appreciate the promise that exists in an ‘I Do.’ And, I’ve witnessed enough nasty divorces to understand how quickly things can take a terrible turn for the worst.
For most single women open to one day tying the knot, marriage is sacred. It’s the culmination of finding Mr. Right and securing that once elusive thing called everlasting love. However, as I talk to many unmarried friends lately, there seems to be an increased hesitation to exchange rings and recite vows.
A negative view of marriage has definitely emerged carrying with it a slew of pessimistic hearts and downturned mouths.
A few interactions with some married male friends and acquaintances tell the story…
How do you measure success?
It’s true that success can mean many things to many people. When many people answer this question, their minds automatically go to: money, power, prestige (or any iteration of these three).
What’s the true measure of success for me? Legacy.
I know some of you may be asking, “How do I begin to create a legacy?” Whether you know it or not, you’re actually creating it – every single day.
Let’s talk about 3 ways I suggest you begin picturing what your own legacy will look like… (more…)