I’ve been speaking publicly since I was a little boy. You name it, I’ve done it. I’ve MC’d weddings, spoken at funerals, had paid speaking gigs before audiences of 10,000 executives, talked to crowds overseas with very low English comprehension, presented before a class of toddlers, held it down at a retirement home and I’ve even given a 3-hour presentation in front of prisoners.
In the last 5 years , I’ve started collecting audience feedback. One question I ask is whether or not the audience member would recommend a friend to hear me speak. With thousands of responses collected, I’m proud to say I’m at a 98% recommendation rate. I’m self-aware enough to know that while there are many areas in life I lack ability in, public speaking is not one of them.
However, I don’t believe I was born with a special gift to speak before crowds. This skill was developed by over 20-years of hard fought lessons. In order to prevent you from going through those same hurdles, I’ve outlined my top 10 list of effective public speaking tips. My hope is that these lessons help you down the road to ultimately become the best public speaker you can be.
In my 22+ career as matchmaking professional and online dating expert, I’ve had the privilege of interviewing over 60,000 singles immersed in conversation about their dating and love lives. I take the time to learn about each person and focus specifically on what’s been working or NOT working in the area of their personal relationships which brought them to seeking “professional” help. I explore all of the avenues they have tried to meet people and get into the details of their past failed relationships to gain deeper insight about their experiences in order to create an effective solution.
My best guess is that 90% of those I speak with have “tried” online dating (even if it was just to create a profile to browse around) while the remaining 10% are either too afraid or simply not interested in ever trying online dating. Their fear is based on third party stories and beliefs created from the warnings of caring friends and family members who think online dating is somehow bad. I have found that Christian singles seem to be very reserved about trying online dating and quite often share with me,”God is going to deliver my partner. God will give me a sure sign of help.”
As I listen to their fears, I instantly think to myself, perhaps this is WHY we are having the conversation in the first place; at this time and in this moment.
I firmly believe in my ability as a professional coach and matchmaking expert, my work with singles will have a positive and lasting impact to their love life. Anything is possible for you and your life if you’re willing to put in the effort and do the WORK necessary to achieve happiness, love and the results you desire.
I’m here to shed some light about online dating for Christian singles and to share some important tips for Christians who are considering online dating as part of their dating strategy…
Financial resources matter a great deal to all businesses which is why for many small business owners, crowdfunding campaigns have become so popular. Crowdfunding, the practice of funding a project or venture by raising monetary contributions from a large number of people, typically via the internet, has been used for everything from potato salad recipes (nope, that’s not a typo) to film production and business launches.
So when we at #MentorMonday thought about practical advice for you, our beloved entrepreneurs, and how you need to fund your BIG dreams, crowdfunding seemed like a perfect fit. And if the chat room love our two crowdfunding experts received was any indication, the insight for creating a successful crowdfunding campaigns was on point.
So Paul may or may not have been ‘smacked’ (slang word meaning you’re somewhere on the spectrum from “tipsy to drunk”). Pour it up it’s #MentorMonday and we’re toasting!
Lots of great news, such as the recent marriage of Marshawn Evans, who married Jack A. Daniels. Marshawn broke the news of the engagement on #MentorMonday Session 11. Watch the episode to find out the part Paul played in getting these two together. Matchmaking comes in many forms, my Friends.
We also said, “Cheers” to BlackGirlsRun founders Ashley Hicks and Toni Carey from #MentorMonday Session 13. They received a live, on-stage shout out by the Queen Oprah herself during her recent tour stop in Atlanta, where they received a $25,000 grant for their awesome non-profit work.
Anytime you can watch #MentorMonday you will be greatly enriched and get all the tools that you need to be successful wherever you are along your entrepreneurial and life’s journey. HOWEVER, there are some benefits to joining #MentorMonday LIVE! And tonight we had mo’ guests so we had mo’ prizes!
Amazing prizes from each of the panelists were awarded to the three #MentorMonday community members whose questions were selected by the members in the chatroom as the best questions. Those questions were then answered by the panel members in real time! Just another perk of being a member of the #MentorMonday community. (more…)
I’ve been a professional matchmaker for six years and in just that time I’ve seen a significant shift in how people date around the world. In most countries, every category related to dating, from public opinion about it, to average length of time couples see each other, to satisfaction, have plummeted. We’re living in a time I label as “alarming” and fully expect if there is not an immediate shift in how we date, our communities will fall apart. After all, marriage is the cornerstone of society and dating is the cornerstone of marriage.
Below, are the 9 biggest problems with dating today and my thoughts on how to solve them.
When genuinely searching for a committed partner (leading to marriage), there is nothing worse than wasting your time with someone who is simply looking for quick sex, casual dating, or just a long-term hang out buddy. By my estimate, 80% or more of daters are not looking for anything serious and although I’m an advocate for “date practicing”, I’m not a proponent of giving your time or resources to a dead end partner.
If you find yourself debating whether the person you’re “dating” is non-committal, here are 8 quick ways to determine if he/she has long-term intentions:
It was the 20th Episode of #MentorMonday!!! Shout out to Blue Moon…was that a beer burp, Paul?
On a serious note, Paul took a moment to discuss the shooting of Michael Brown, and to reflect on the dialogue that ensued surrounding racism, policing and strategies to address equality – especially wealth equality. And there’s no better person to discuss wealth creation than Dr. Dennis Kimbro.
Paul even shared a bit about his own upbringing, his father’s economic trajectory and the impact his father’s wealth-building efforts had on Paul’s life.
Honestly, this episode really holds up a mirror to us and in some instances will make you say “Ouch!” But if you’re serious about pursuing your dreams, creating wealth, expanding your world, gritting your teeth and taking the medicine that Dr. Kimbro doles out, this episode of #MentorMonday can change your life! That’s not hyperbole. Check it out for yourself! (more…)
In a recent post I wrote about how I significantly reduced how much TV I consume and dramatically increased my reading. A key reason for doing this is because upon reflecting on “activities” that have led to substantial changes in my life, I can’t count one TV show as the catalyst.
I can, however, point to several books. Here are 10 books that have had a profound influence on my life…
For this edition of #MentorMonday, Paul hosted from New York City, instead of his usual DC location, because he and his beautiful wife, Jill were celebrating a very special day. Happy 13th Wedding Anniversary to Paul and Jill Brunson!
And, a very special thank you to Lamar Tyler, of BlackAndMarriedWithKids.com for stepping in to continue the interview after Paul experienced technical difficulties. Lamar did an amazing job…Paul, don’t slip…ut oh!
Motivation, inspiration, and tools for success are all embodied in the incredible 20 plus year career of world renowned speaker, educator, author, activist and minister, Eric Thomas. ET, as he’s known, shared life lessons with the #MentorMonday community this week.
The last 5 years in business have been transformative for me – both personally and financially. I have never been more fulfilled and purpose-driven than I have been doing what I do. And, as a result of stepping out on faith (it took a huge leap of faith to leave what others thought was a secure lifestyle to delve into the unknown), I’ve learned some powerful lessons. This journey has taken me places that I’ve only dreamed of going, while accomplishing some key milestones along the way.
Folks always ask how I did “it.” Recognizing the importance of paying it forward and sharing what I’ve learned, I managed to synthesize an actionable list of the 10 things I learned while making my first $1 million.