I used to have what (at the time) was my “dream job.” I went to college to major in Recording Industry Management and I had a chance to intern for a division of a major record label. Other than what I do now, it was the best gig of my life.
From this experience, I learned a few things about success. One of the being: if you want to be successful, you need to be rejected.
Allow me to share with you a story, and 3 ways using rejection can lead you on to success. (more…)
Remember the popular, satirical YouTube video called “(Authentic) Black Marriage Negotiations”? Well, if not, to refresh your memory: the wildly popular video featured a computer generated image of a Black woman listing all the things she wanted in a man.
The clip was loathed by the many, but there were some who liked the video. It gained my attention because it tapped into what has been a big issue in my work.
People are often unable to tell values from wants. Often, these people suffer from “Type Hype.” But, what’s the fix? (more…)
When I lost my mom to Multiple Sclerosis a few years ago I couldn’t quite figure out how on earth I was going to excel in this thing called life without my biggest cheerleader on the sidelines. Sometimes I hear her voice singing her favorite song – Marvin Sapp’s “Never Would Have Made It” – to me saying “I’m stronger, I’m wiser, I’m better, much better…and I never would’ve made it.” I often wonder to myself if that’s so true, then why do I feel so empty? It wasn’t fair that I lost her and I was angry about it until I realized in order for me to (really) live, she had to die.
Okay, let me get to the point of why I told you all of that. Sometimes your biggest lessons are learned through your biggest losses. And, sometimes your pain causes you to birth your passion . I learned just how important it was to live with intention. Here are 4 lessons I learned… (more…)
Success: I want it, you want it. But does it come at the cost of your health and wellness?
We’ve heard that “the greatest wealth is health.” Then, why are we as Americans monetarily wealthy, yet we have the highest rates of obese (35.7%) and overweight (66%) adults in the world? I have had moments when I sacrificed sleep, food, exercise and “me” time because of external stress and obligations. Now as an entrepreneur, it’s never-ending.
We’re not often encouraged to have an outlet (an emotional and physical release) from the stressors in our professional lives if we want to be “successful.” Can’t we have both measures of success – health and wealth?! Yes, we can.
And, here are 6 effective ways to incorporate fitness and wellness into your busy lifestyle (especially if you’re an entrepreneur)…
Everyone wants to know the key to dating successfully once you cross into the land of Thirtyville. See, Thirtyville represents more than an age, it’s a time in our lives when we’re expected to have more clarity, greater stability, and a deeper sense of self.
Our thirties are the manifestation of all the growing, building, and learning we (supposedly) did in our twenties. We should reap benefits of sowed seeds and have everything fall together nicely in our lives. But so often that fails to be the case. Most of us are dissatisfied with our careers, having chosen bigger paychecks over passion and purpose. Meanwhile, many remain actively engaged in the dating game wondering when and if we’ll ever find The One (or at least someone worthy of the title ‘Runner Up‘).
So what’s the real deal with Thirtyville? Why isn’t it akin to a promised land of milk & honey? Why are we still struggling to answer questions thrown at us a decade ago? While I don’t know everything about dating, I know a few things. Some were conceived from disappointments and poor decision-making, while others were born from investigation and introspection. Nevertheless, here are 3 major reasons we struggle with dating after 30…
Unless you’ve lived under a rock for the last few years, you know about hit ABC’s drama, Scandal and its constantly conflicted main character, Olivia Pope.
Olivia Pope is a self-described “fixer” – a woman who, along with her team of associates, can make just about anyone come out of the biggest controversies smelling like a rose (whether they created the problems themselves or were thrust into them by happenstance). Except, ‘Liv…as everyone affectionately calls her, just can’t seem to “fix” her own beleaguered love life. Because, well…she’s having an affair with the President of the United States.
Scandal, now a nearly ubiquitous cultural mainstay, also has us talking about the state of relationships, and if the “drama” is worth it. Should we all want a “boring,” predictable kind of love, or an exciting one, rocked with drama and “scandal” (perhaps not of the affair-having variety)? Does the choice even have to be presented in such a dichotomous way?
Well, I think there’s 4 great reasons why a love without “scandal” is healthier…
How many times have you tried to assemble something on your own that you either a). could have gotten done much faster had there been another person to assist or b). had to delay it until you could round up some help?
I think we all have, which proves the fact that being independent does not negate the necessity of having a support system. You really don’t have to go it alone.
In life, I believe we all have a basic human need to have strong support - ideally with a mate. There is value in companionship, creating memories, and sharing vulnerabilities. So, I want to share with you the 5 reasons it’s better not to go it alone.
It’s #MentorMonday time, and boy was this an amazing show! This recap can’t possibly capture all of the rich information that was shared so generously by Lamar and Ronnie, creators of BlackandMarriedWithKids.com… but we’re going to try.
In this session, we learn how the Tylers created their wildly popular website, how they deliver amazing content that resonates with so many of us, the importance of marketing and promotion, and finally, the secrets to monetizing your passion!
Let’s dive right in…
As we celebrate the month of love, we are all inundated with grandiose imagery, and dramatic and romantic story lines. But, simplified: true love is a decision to act in a way that honors both yourself and your loved one. Much of what comprises true love is not always seen in the movies, or in the romance novels. It’s often made up of of some of the most overlooked characteristics that really matter in everyday life.
It’s why I want to offer several expressions of what love truly is – to highlight what I view as the some of the most important aspects of love. You may already be familiar with many of these, but, they are all fundamental to understanding and manifesting the true meaning of love. Here are 6 everyday, (sometimes) overlooked expressions of love… (more…)
I’ve found that it’s essential to examine your thoughts…often. Your thought-life dictates every single move you make. And, something as simple as a sentence - a really great thought that makes you have an “aha” moment – can change the way you think about your life. Because once you change your thoughts, you change your life.
Here are 20 of my thoughts that have made self-empowerment simple… (more…)