10 Most Outrageous Myths About Men We All Believe

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Before clients of my agency begin the matchmaking phase, we first put them through several weeks of intensive coaching. Our focus during this pre-match time is to share effective dating strategies, review recent research, and most importantly, dispel myths! Over the years, I’ve heard just about everything, and I mean everythang! The following are the top 10 myths our female clients believed to be truths.

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#MentorMonday [Recap]: Don’t Be “A Damn Fool!” Monetization Panel

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Our host, Paul C. Brunson, started off the night with maybe one of the biggest shocks in #MentorMonday history!  In #MENTORMONDAY HISTORY!  But you have to watch the show to find out what it was.  (Spoiler alert: Red Stripe and Blue Moon may be heartbroken.)

He also took the time to remind us of one of the most phrases uttered on #MentorMonday. Yes, Chris Burns (who was in this week’s Spreecast audience) gave us this bit of wisdom and quite possibly the most retweeted #MentorMonday quote from his time on the #MentorMonday Entrepreneur Panel: simply, “Get money.”

But how do you “Get money”?

And just as important, if not more so, how do you monetize your business and then build several streams of revenue? Our #MentorMonday monetization panel with Tionna Smalls, Jullien Gordon, and Trent Shelton share how they do it.

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#MentorMonday 25 [Recap]: The Hope Panel

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“The minute you are willing to surrender your biggest dreams…the success follows.” ~ Mandy Hale

“When you think you’ve lost hope it’s just the Universe’s way of telling you there is something else out there for you.” ~ Russ Terry

“When you step out on faith you don’t fall.” ~ Paul C. Brunson

“I don’t even watch the news [on TV] because it’s too depressing…I have to make a decision to remain positive and hopeful at all times.” ~ Angela Russell

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We’re talking HOPE, with the “Oprah emphasis.” This episode of #MentorMonday took a fascinating and dare I say, ‘hopeful’ look at how to keep hope and how to keep from losing hope. Some of us, like Paul, like our hope in a liquid form!

Seriously, though, hope, and the elements of hope, including faith and confidence, were the focus of this episode. Paul considers himself “The Hope Guy,” so this episode is near and dear to his heart (but honestly, every episode is!)…and to the hearts of the #MentorMonday Community. (more…)

#MentorMonday And #ThxBirthControl Get Sexy “After Dark”: We Dare You To Watch

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#MentorMonday got a little daring in the first “after dark” episode dedicated to all things sex!

In partnership with #ThxBirthControl and Bedsider.org, an online resource for birth control for men and women, #MentorMonday gave the audience what they needed and wanted in a conversation centered around such a controversial topic.

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Every single relationship seminar that Paul conducts always includes a discussion about birth control. “Birth control is the most substantial thing that has impacted dating and impacted marriage that has ever been created.”  Paul decided HR laws be damned and had an interesting convo with the producer of #MentorMonday, Ella (@EllaLaverne) about her current sex situation, much to Ella’s chagrin…but I feel so much closer to Ella now.  Silly season has begun. (more…)

#MentorMonday 23 – Awesomely Authentic with Luvvie Ajayi

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Introducing, the new co-host of Our World with Black Enterprise, Paul Carrick Brunson, woo hoo!! The entire #MentorMonday sends congratulations to our Paul C. Brunson. We’re all excited, as is Paul!

Paul gave a shout out to attendees of the one-day #MentorMondayMastermind Intensive that he and Ella Rucker facilitated in Washington, DC the weekend prior. Billionaire (yes, with a ‘B’) entrepreneur, and one of Paul’s two billionaire mentors, Enver Yűcel, stopped by and shared with attendees about his entrepreneurial journey, grilled attendees about our business concepts and answered every question he was asked. My highlight, aside from getting to ask him a question about marketing when he was a young start-up, was after he left the room, he came back in almost immediately to take a pic and tweet about his experience with us. Talk about the power of social media!

ICYMI: Fear not if you were unable to attend the November 1 #MentorMondayMastermind Intensive, Paul and Ella are hosting another One-day Mastermind Intensive on December 13, and this one will be live in Washington, DC AND livestreaming for those unable to travel to DC. Winning!

 Now let’s talk about building a business around your authentic self with Digital Strategist and Humor Writer, Luvvie Ajayi!

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Openended: Sometimes the End Is the Beginning

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I love romantic comedies. I mean I’m a sucker for a cutesy, yet predictable story featuring two attractive characters who tend to lead really great lives.

But if you’re like me, these tales don’t really reflect my love life, which has been messy, awesome, complicated, and surreal – sometimes at the same time.

When a relationship ends it may not be because the two people involved don’t love one another, but because they just can’t get the relationship part right. Sometimes, what may look like the end is really the beginning or it may just be left openended.

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10 Public Speaking Pro Tips I Learned Presenting to Everyone from Prisoners to CEOs

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I’ve been speaking publicly since I was a little boy. You name it, I’ve done it. I’ve MC’d weddings, spoken at funerals, had paid speaking gigs before audiences of 10,000 executives, talked to crowds overseas with very low English comprehension, presented before a class of toddlers, held it down at a retirement home and I’ve even given a 3-hour presentation in front of prisoners.

In the last 5 years , I’ve started collecting audience feedback. One question I ask is whether or not the audience member would recommend a friend to hear me speak. With thousands of responses collected, I’m proud to say I’m at a 98% recommendation rate. I’m self-aware enough to know that while there are many areas in life I lack ability in, public speaking is not one of them.

However, I don’t believe I was born with a special gift to speak before crowds. This skill was developed by over 20-years of hard fought lessons. In order to prevent you from going through those same hurdles, I’ve outlined my top 10 list of effective public speaking tips. My hope is that these lessons help you down the road to ultimately become the best public speaker you can be.

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5 Important Tips If You’re Considering Christian Online Dating

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In my 22+ career as matchmaking professional and online dating expert, I’ve had the privilege of interviewing over 60,000 singles immersed in conversation about their dating and love lives. I take the time to learn about each person and focus specifically on what’s been working or NOT working in the area of their personal relationships which brought them to seeking “professional” help. I explore all of the avenues they have tried to meet people and get into the details of their past failed relationships to gain deeper insight about their experiences in order to create an effective solution.

My best guess is that 90% of those I speak with have “tried” online dating (even if it was just to create a profile to browse around) while the remaining 10% are either too afraid or simply not interested in ever trying online dating. Their fear is based on third party stories and beliefs created from the warnings of caring friends and family members who think online dating is somehow bad. I have found that Christian singles seem to be very reserved about trying online dating and quite often share with me,”God is going to deliver my partner. God will give me a sure sign of help.”

As I listen to their fears, I instantly think to myself, perhaps this is WHY we are having the conversation in the first place; at this time and in this moment.

I firmly believe in my ability as a professional coach and matchmaking expert, my work with singles will have a positive and lasting impact to their love life. Anything is possible for you and your life if you’re willing to put in the effort and do the WORK necessary to achieve happiness, love and the results you desire.

I’m here to shed some light about online dating for Christian singles and to share some important tips for Christians who are considering online dating as part of their dating strategy…

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#MentorMonday Wows The Crowd(funding) With Money-Making Tips For Biz

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Financial resources matter a great deal to all businesses which is why for many small business owners, crowdfunding campaigns have become so popular. Crowdfunding, the practice of funding a project or venture by raising monetary contributions from a large number of people, typically via the internet, has been used for everything from potato salad recipes (nope, that’s not a typo) to film production and business launches.

So when we at #MentorMonday thought about practical advice for you, our beloved entrepreneurs,  and how you need to fund your BIG dreams, crowdfunding seemed like a perfect fit.  And if the chat room love our two crowdfunding experts received was any indication, the insight for creating a successful crowdfunding campaigns was on point.

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#MentorMonday [Recap]: 3 Entrepreneurs + 1 Conversation = Infinite Information

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So Paul may or may not have been ‘smacked’ (slang word meaning you’re somewhere on the spectrum from “tipsy to drunk”). Pour it up it’s #MentorMonday and we’re toasting!

Lots of great news, such as the recent marriage of Marshawn Evans, who married Jack A. Daniels. Marshawn broke the news of the engagement on #MentorMonday Session 11.  Watch the episode to find out the part Paul played in getting these two together.  Matchmaking comes in many forms, my Friends.

We also said, “Cheers” to BlackGirlsRun founders Ashley Hicks and Toni Carey from #MentorMonday Session 13.  They received  a live, on-stage shout out by the Queen Oprah herself during her recent tour stop in Atlanta, where they received a $25,000 grant for their awesome non-profit work.

Anytime you can watch #MentorMonday you will be greatly enriched and get all the tools that you need to be successful wherever you are along your entrepreneurial and life’s journey. HOWEVER, there are some benefits to joining #MentorMonday LIVE! And tonight we had mo’ guests so we had mo’ prizes!

Amazing prizes from each of the panelists were awarded to the three #MentorMonday community members whose questions were selected by the members in the chatroom as the best questions. Those questions were then answered by the panel members in real time! Just another perk of being a member of the #MentorMonday community. (more…)