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15 Ways To Know If You’re Dating a Man or Boy

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Let’s be clear: not every boy becomes a man. When dating, knowing how to distinguish between the two will save you time, energy, money and even heartache.

Men from boys

Here are 15 ways you can separate the men from the boys

1. What Are His Priorities?

A man does first what needs to be done, but a boy does only what he wants to do.

 

2. Does He Have Goals?

“The man is aiming at a goal; the boy is drifting aimlessly.” — Author Unknown

 

3. How Responsible Is He?

Men make and keep commitments, boys don’t. Think about it.

 

4. How Does He Refer to You?

Boys want a “wifey.” Men want a “wife.”

 

5. Can He Communicate?

A boy tells you about his day. A man will ask you about yours – and listen.

 

6. Does He Have a Strong Work Ethic?

Boys consume. Men produce. Case closed.

 

7. Can You Trust Him?

You can put your trust in a man. Your trust is always lost with a boy. No exceptions.

 

8. Does He Know Who He Is?

Boys dress, talk and act like everyone else. Men emulate no one and form their own identity.

 

9. Does He Want to Stimulate His Mind?

Men are never afraid to ask questions. Boys think they have it all figured out.

 

10. Is He Serious About His Future?

Boys chase girls and women. Men chase family. #realtalk

 

11. Does He Ever Pick Up the Phone?

Boys send text messages. Men call. Again, no exceptions.

 

12. What Is His Purpose?

Boys exist in stagnation. Men embrace change.

 

13. Does He Have Baggage?

Boys have more liabilities. Men possess more assets.

 

14. How Does He Handle the First Date?

Boys split the check. Men (always!) pay.

 

15. Does He Consider Others?

Boys are selfish. Men are selfless.

 

While none of us “have it all together,” it’s supremely important to only invest your time, energy, and emotions into a partner (or a potential partner) who is not only committed to his own betterment, but yours, as well. If you can answer these 15 questions confidently, then congratulations! You just may have found a man.

 

What are some other ways you distinguish the men from the boys? 

 

 

Posted on: Feb 8, 2014

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128 comments
Keanya Clifton-Roach
Keanya Clifton-Roach

You can walk like a man, "sound" like a man, and be built like a man, but that DOES NOT make you a man.... We have to change the narrative on what real "men" and women are made of!

Xavier Mahogany
Xavier Mahogany

I respectfully disagree. If you have a phallus and are done with puberty, you r a man. Now, you may be sorry as fu**, but that just makes you a "sorry a$$ man," but still a man. :)

Lisa Spry
Lisa Spry

So true! We more leaders in men.

Dani Atherton
Dani Atherton

Enough said. Blame it on their mamas! Hahahaha!

Tracey Gwin
Tracey Gwin

Too many grown boys! Not enough grown men!

Teresa Gamel
Teresa Gamel

Your right just like every woman dose not have what it take's to be a good mother for their children.

Greg Callaway
Greg Callaway

Very true. And feminism an macho-ism are synonymous with this immaturity, both being concerned with having it their way = DYSFUNCTIONAL

John DeSoto
John DeSoto

So, in a nutshell, just like you don't invite argument on your rules so you don't offer them the possibility of changing your order, by putting the word "man" up for grabs, you create an invitation like the woman hater who said what he was doing made him a real man. He may have been a man, he was just a bad man. If nothing is stable, things dissolve into chaos. Ideas have consequences...

John DeSoto
John DeSoto

I think you were defining good, compassionate men. Again, man is morally neutral as a term. Evil men exist. By constantly self-defining the term man, we are muddying the waters an the possibility of a definite term dissolves. Words belong to the dictionary, not what we think it should mean. This is what post-modernism has done to America.

John Edmonds
John Edmonds

I think on the subject of being 'a real man' should be added that real "men" are also compassionate and understanding-that real 'men' make mistakes but also correct their wrongs. These are qualities of being a 'real man' that is missing from this list. Society of all different cultures and classes put too much pressure on men who have not have not had the mentorship needed to grow and become who they, themselves, want to be. Yes, this pressure-continual criticism that reminds us how not us as a community have failed, but that the man has- is real. A lot of these so called 'boys' in this world find themselves criticized for not being someone they never had the chance to be. I think something has to be done about this perpetual notion of manhood that I quite frankly, don't agree with most of the time. At least, this just my two cents..

Shelly Spruill
Shelly Spruill

You are right just like every girl don't become a woman.

Andrew
Andrew

No..........generous people offer to pay. Do not mix up $$$$ with men and especially being a good man. Many people use money as a means to an end. Many people have different motives and hidden agendas . Do not think just because a man always pays that automatically makes him a "good man".