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15 Ways To Know If You’re Dating a Man or Boy

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Let’s be clear: not every boy becomes a man. When dating, knowing how to distinguish between the two will save you time, energy, money and even heartache.

Men from boys

Here are 15 ways you can separate the men from the boys

1. What Are His Priorities?

A man does first what needs to be done, but a boy does only what he wants to do.

 

2. Does He Have Goals?

“The man is aiming at a goal; the boy is drifting aimlessly.” — Author Unknown

 

3. How Responsible Is He?

Men make and keep commitments, boys don’t. Think about it.

 

4. How Does He Refer to You?

Boys want a “wifey.” Men want a “wife.”

 

5. Can He Communicate?

A boy tells you about his day. A man will ask you about yours – and listen.

 

6. Does He Have a Strong Work Ethic?

Boys consume. Men produce. Case closed.

 

7. Can You Trust Him?

You can put your trust in a man. Your trust is always lost with a boy. No exceptions.

 

8. Does He Know Who He Is?

Boys dress, talk and act like everyone else. Men emulate no one and form their own identity.

 

9. Does He Want to Stimulate His Mind?

Men are never afraid to ask questions. Boys think they have it all figured out.

 

10. Is He Serious About His Future?

Boys chase girls and women. Men chase family. #realtalk

 

11. Does He Ever Pick Up the Phone?

Boys send text messages. Men call. Again, no exceptions.

 

12. What Is His Purpose?

Boys exist in stagnation. Men embrace change.

 

13. Does He Have Baggage?

Boys have more liabilities. Men possess more assets.

 

14. How Does He Handle the First Date?

Boys split the check. Men (always!) pay.

 

15. Does He Consider Others?

Boys are selfish. Men are selfless.

 

While none of us “have it all together,” it’s supremely important to only invest your time, energy, and emotions into a partner (or a potential partner) who is not only committed to his own betterment, but yours, as well. If you can answer these 15 questions confidently, then congratulations! You just may have found a man.

 

What are some other ways you distinguish the men from the boys? 

 

 

Posted on: Feb 8, 2014

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172 comments
Lavare Nash
Lavare Nash

Xavier Mahogany, I believe Brunson is addressing maturity versus immaturity--not if your sex organ is wholly male. Most "men" are deemed so because of their age, but they act like middle/high school or even college-aged boys-- afraid to make adult decisions. Basically, you've said the same thing as Brunson. Men read between the lines and acknowledge the problem then work to fix it. Boys get stuck on semantics. <coughs> Which one are you?

Lavare Nash
Lavare Nash

Xavier Mahogany, I believe the author is addressing maturity versus immaturity not if your sex organs is wholly male or wholly female. Most "men" are deemed so because of their age, but they act like middle school, high school, or even college-aged boys afraid to make adult decisions.  Basically, you've said the same thing as Brunson. Men read between the lines and acknowledge the problem then work to fix it. Boys get stuck on semantics. <coughs> Which one are you?

Gurmeen Kaur
Gurmeen Kaur

Gurinderpreet Singh :) my man♥ yew fit all the categories

Melissa Brigden
Melissa Brigden

Currently extricating myself from a boy masquerading as a man. This helps to further show I am spot on in moving on.

Melanie Lowe
Melanie Lowe

Just 15?? Come on now...you hit some major ones yesss; however, when you first meet a man or even start dating there are huge red flags to look out for and you mentioned some in this article...I think the quicker we as women recognize these characteristics, the quicker we can throw in our towel and burn those fed flags to ashes! Intuition and that internal 6th sense will never stir you wrong!

Adrienne Dixon
Adrienne Dixon

Kia Allen, yesssss! I love it. Looks like someone definitely is dating a MAN!

Patricia Howard
Patricia Howard

Well i guess i better keep on his ass to make him a great man ! =)

Lakeisha Carter
Lakeisha Carter

This is our series at church ..there are a lot of grown boys in our society.. Sad

Kia Allen
Kia Allen

Braddeus Wellmaker Brad BruceWayne Williams

Dominique Smith
Dominique Smith

Lol that's funny trey would be half and half I guess

Chelsea Lunn
Chelsea Lunn

Minus the first date one, these all apply to girls vs women as well!

Zora Vašulínová
Zora Vašulínová

I think it fits perfectly also as "Are you dating a girl or a woman?"

Kyla Rawlins
Kyla Rawlins

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Cmarie Breezy Lmt
Cmarie Breezy Lmt

Thank god I'm engaged to a man....he fits all the categories amen Antonio Smilez Sims

Sherie Williams
Sherie Williams

Thank God I was born a woman. Too many guidelines and "dos" & "don'ts" for men.

Chuk
Chuk

OMG .. 100% TRUE

Ella Rucker
Ella Rucker

Easy. If his name is.... he's a boy!

Ty Buchanan
Ty Buchanan

That article was good and extermely accurate. All women need to read this.

Kay Gray
Kay Gray

Can't stop laughing, like the one who thinks he wants to be around me and decided to accompany me as I was running errands. So I had to put gas in my truck, I jumped out to do it and he said no I'll take care. So I jumped back in, then I heard that I did not slide my card, I said to myself he's dead, then as I left the station, I noticed he left my tank open, so I said he's buried or cremated. DONE.

Dana G. Stockdale
Dana G. Stockdale

Ok thanks for the tag big sis I will look into his books Chasity J Middleton you are right on time

Chasity J Middleton
Chasity J Middleton

Dana G. Stockdale i read a lot of his articles. I have his book too!

Keanya Clifton-Roach
Keanya Clifton-Roach

You can walk like a man, "sound" like a man, and be built like a man, but that DOES NOT make you a man.... We have to change the narrative on what real "men" and women are made of!