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10 Places to Meet a Man This Holiday Season

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The one question I can’t seem to escape this time of year is: “Where do I meet single men, Paul?”

While I am not a believer in one ultimate Mecca for single men, I do know there are better places to meet men than others. Over the years as a professional matchmaker, I have spent a significant amount of time headhunting men as well as coaching female clients on where/how to meet men. The following list represents the 10 places with the highest yield (during the holiday season).

 

1) The Apple Store

 

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I have several friends who work for the company Steve Jobs built, and the data I hear is very compelling. In just one store in New York City, over the course of one year, four marriages and 12 commitment relationships were reported – that’s better odds than most online dating sites! Once you go Mac you don’t go back!

 

 2) The Gym

 

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It is important to emphasize “weight room” and not just the gym, in general. Women work out just as frequently (if not more frequently) as men. So next time you’re working out, walk over to the free weight area and no matter what gym you’re in, you’ll see that the ratio jumps to 1 billion men to 1 woman -– bingo! Even if you’re not interested in what you see, there is nothing wrong with a little friendly flirting… just say “Who can spot me?” and you’ll have your pick!

 

 

3) Holiday Parties

 

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You can’t escape an evite to a holiday party. Every organization hosts them: employers, churches, college alumni groups, and the list goes on and on. Holiday gatherings are a great way to reconnect with old friends and to meet new friends. The opportunity to attend parties translates into an increase in opportunities to expand our social circle which can lead to more than just a winter boo.

 

 

4) Select Supermarkets

 

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If it starts with a “W” -– it’s a good look! Whole Foods & Wegmans are my favorite (Click here to see video of me taking TV personality Jacque Reid to a supermarket to meet men). Traditionally, supermarkets have been named as great grounds for meeting single guys. Take that a step further and frequent the aisles at high-end grocery stores and you’re likely to find a good catch. Anyone spending that much money on groceries is serious about their health and most likely their lifestyle, and he can probably cook.

 

 

5) Home Improvement Stores

 

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Home improvement chains are loaded with men. You can’t walk in one of these big-box stores without seeing an abundance of available guys roaming the aisles for tools, fixtures, wood — and dates. These stores even offer classes on home repair and construction projects. Debbie Mandel, author of Turn On Your Inner Light: Fitness for Body, Mind and Soul, explains the appeal: “Men are looking for self-reliant women who can fix things and take some of the responsibility off them.” She adds, “Some weddings have been celebrated at the Home Depot where the couple originally met!”

 

 

6) Fundraisers

 

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Very similar to office holiday parties, many organizations use this time of year to raise money – be there (if you care about the cause)! Not only will you be supporting a good cause, you can meet people who share your value for giving (and values is the most important category to match with someone on). 

 

 

7) Facebook & Social Networks

 

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As we know from the hit movie “Social Network,” the origin of the biggest online destination in the world was simply a dating site. My matchmaking team actually uses Facebook to identify matches for clients and high rates (compared to other methods). One of my twelve marriages as a matchmaker came from an initial Facebook introduction. However, the tricky part with Facebook, just like with any online dating site, is how it is used. I also mention “social networks” because the key (as I I know you’ve seen me write a million times) is expanding your social circle – so why not participate in an online forum that allows you to do just that.

 

 

8) Volunteer Project

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When we volunteer, we dedicate our time to our passions and values. There is no better qualifier to meet “Mr. Right” than our values. There is no better expression of your values than the giving of your time. I have personally witnessed many friends meet their significant other this way.

 

 

9) The Train 

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I travel from DC to NYC frequently and have personally witnessed a gold mine of men in my state-to-state excursions. Men hand out business cards like one of those people handing out free Bourbon chicken at the food court in the malls. The fact that these men are on the train and not a bus (no disrespect to my Mega Bus friends because you’ll catch me riding it on occasion) is a good sign (for my clients)… unemployed folks usually don’t take the train across the state line.

 

 

10) Select Online Dating Sites

 

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Hate it or love it, 1 out of 5 committed relationships is a result of an online dating site. As a power user of several online dating sites myself, I can tell you that even though many people say online dating sucks… it really doesn’t. Nothing is wrong with online dating tools. What does suck is how many people use sites not best suited for their needs or don’t spend enough time using the tools provided. Used effectively, online dating delivers results — more than 500,000 people who marry each year as a result would agree. This time of year, several sites offer discounts or free passes, take advantage of this.

 

Have I missed any great places? 

 

 

 

Posted on: Dec 13, 2013

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115 comments
Glo Vanessa
Glo Vanessa

What dating site will work for me? I am a 28 year old black female living in losangeles

Glo Vanessa
Glo Vanessa

what dating site will work for me? I am 28 year old black female living in losangeles

Constance Stephan
Constance Stephan

Not my choice of places because guys know they are 'hot spots'....check out their eyes and body language lol. You'll either laugh or run for the hills. I usually get a good laugh.

Deanna Brea
Deanna Brea

Love the 1 spot Apple true you can't go back. But still have not met any one there yet.

Alice Johnson
Alice Johnson

hate to say it, but i'm with stacey on this one. but like holley says, you know when someone isn't from where you live. so refreshing...smh

Hippy Chic
Hippy Chic

Yes, yes, yes but where can we meet this one! Lol.

Holley Clark
Holley Clark

I live in a city were men don' t ask woman out. I mean. I go out and they don't ask you to dance, buy you a drink or start a conversation. If they do you know they are from out of town. What can I do to better my chances?

Aya Marsh
Aya Marsh

Saw this post earlier and the very next day proved you are so right about the "W" grocery stores.

Keyonna A Monroe
Keyonna A Monroe

I live in Los Angeles so I hope this works on the West Coast as well.

Delisher Williams Bankole
Delisher Williams Bankole

As a married woman, your list is on POINT! As a busy mom I often grocery shop on Sundays. I am always shocked to see so many men grocery shopping. See a handsome RING-LESS guy, check his cart..then ask.."is the beer on sale?"

Stacy Baron
Stacy Baron

Hmmmm very interesting!!! Things should start looking up for me soon... I already meet 5 requirements on your list... I just have to add 5 more to the list... I'm a little nervous because I live in Atlanta... I'm 46 and newly single and everyone interested in me seems to be re-appearing from my past and live pretty far away. I'm quite fearful of dating sites...I'd rather have a friend introduce me to someone they think I'd be compatible with...

Carlene Renewme Randolph
Carlene Renewme Randolph

Wow I never thought about it in that way. I literally just threw in the towel on looking for that special person. Fear and hope have simply drained me. Thanks for the video Paul and Jacque.

Athena PositiveonPurpose Plummer
Athena PositiveonPurpose Plummer

I agree with the list and met mine through a reconnection on a social network. I would add, at the Christmas tree shaping stand and, the electronics store and the hobby store.

Paula Davis
Paula Davis

Best buy. They love Best Buy. You are guaranteed to meet one there. Plus, they are in such a good mood when they are buying TVs.

Gina Beller
Gina Beller

Good morning Paul! What dating site would you recommend for me? I am 32 and in Colorado.

Genn Hossenbux
Genn Hossenbux

Paul Paul Carrick Brunson so I guess I have to move to the states then! Because here in Holland you can't find 'em!

Simone Anglin
Simone Anglin

Im 35 in London these men here are too slow and dont know what they want. Im going to NYC in Feb for a week any suggestions ????

Dawn L. Brown
Dawn L. Brown

Paul- I always go to the free weights area at the gym with my trainer. One day I did went on my own and ended up with two dates! I also met a man at Whole Foods. Now that I'm single again, I'm headed to the Mac store this weekend. Lol!

Toya Anderson
Toya Anderson

Paul what dating site for 45 in Los Angeles?

Elah Hudson
Elah Hudson

What dating site would be good for me? I'm 29 & in South Carolina

Maria Il
Maria Il

I think a gym could be odd as a lot of women are there just to work out and don't want to be bothered though yes, I still think it could be a good place given the right set up/approach. I definitely agree on home improvement stores as I was in one recently earlier on a Saturday and it was packed with men! I was like whoa…this is where you all go. lol.

Paul Carrick Brunson
Paul Carrick Brunson

Tiffany Armstrong - If you're Christian, I suggest Christian Mingle (given your age, city, ethnicity, & age)! Keep me posted, thanks!