The following recap was written by my friend Ella Rucker. Along with her blogging, she recently authored The Poetry of Prose. Check out her doing Something Wonderful on Facebook and follow her on Twitter @ellalaverne.
So another #MentorMonday success!
We started at 123 people, and got 2,684 views as of 2.5 hours later. I don’t know how many actually participated because I was too busy soaking up knowledge and watching Paul d-a-n-c-e!
We started with the rules:
- No negativity.
- Give support outside of the video conversation.
- Use headsets if you want to be on camera.
Paul started #MentorMonday a while ago, but he had some fears about how it would be received. He took that fear and leaned into it and #MentorMonday is becoming successful. So he put the question to us. What do we fear? Tweet him your answers. We get real in the #MentorMonday chats. It isn’t all brown drank!
The prior week’s #MentorMonday left some questions unanswered. He would like people who think they are winners of the $700, 6-month coaching package from the last session to contact him.
Paul referenced Brown Sugar, but we didn’t get to it. Several were quick to share how Brown Sugar got started with this link.
The couple from a few weeks ago, Deja Love and Rich Owens, met but didn’t make a love connection. That’s okay; they are friends now. The key to opportunity is through social networks. Weak ties, not our best friends, build opportunity. Expanding our social circle will help in all walks of life.
So first on the #MentorMonday mic were James Lopez and Anthony Frasier of The Phat Startup. The company is where hip hop and entrepreneurial endeavors meet. They bring people who love hip hop into their space for interviews giving a different take on how to grow businesses. They can be reached at www.thephatstartup.com or @thephatstartup. Paul tried to get them to breakdance, but, alas, technical difficulties kept the duo from getting their grooves on.
Eventually the tech difficulties cut Anthony out of the conversation altogether. As is the case, James was ready to step in because they truly are a team and have each other’s backs.
Paul’s first question to The Phat Startup was that he knows they are on social media and that’s how they operate primarily, but what else do they do? Live events was the answer. At these meetups, entrepreneurs are exposed to people like the founder of reddit.com, grammy winners, etc. who are in the entrepreneurial space. More info and more importantly video from past events can be found on their website.
James cited @bwatts, @garyvee, @lamartyler, and @brothatech as some of the people he follows when Paul asked. He said that as an entrepreneur in tech it is easy to get in the door. Some of the people in the audience offered codecademy.com (@beajas) and coursera (@george williams) as places where you can learn how to code if you want to get into that space.
#MentorMonday community member Chioma Alexis asked about common sense in business. She wanted to know how to get to success simply. James answered, “Adding value to anybody’s life that you touch.” Don’t ask what you can do for me, but what can I do for you. Do the little things that might change their business and they will do for you whatever you want.
James was asked about #MentorMonday, and said he loves the chill vibe and the libations. It helps at the end of a long day. Paul drank to that!
Others had questions for James, but technical difficulties again made things a little challenging. So Paul wanted to turn the tables on James, but James did it first. He asked Paul about haters. Paul said he can accept anything except coming for his family. He referenced DuPont Circle and I’m assuming you don’t want to go there with him about his family with a challenge like that.
Paul told the audience and James that haters hate something in themselves. He said they don’t know us. Then he dropped a gem on the audience he learned on the set of Lovetown. “You can’t reason with crazy.”
James was then asked the same question about haters. He said he deals with the bigger picture. He’s there to give entrepreneurs a voice. James offered a challenge about hating MORE since haters propel him to go bigger, get more sponsors. It lights a fire within him to change more lives. “The best revenge – massive success,” was Paul’s Sinatra quote to sum it up.
Next up was Kailen Rosenberg who wrote Real Love Right Now and was Paul’s costar on Lovetown. Matchmaker, author, celebrity, mother and all around good person with whom Paul had a lot of interesting conversations. She wowed the crowd with her whipped cream flavored vodka on ice.
Paul asked her about her life since Lovetown. What was her highest and what was her lowest moments as a result of the show.
Kailen said she had a higher level of awareness of disconnects in love. It broke her heart. It woke her up and made her want to be better on a soulful level. And she wants to do everything better.
The lowest was how quickly we fall backwards and buy into the crap of our society. “I’m tight with the Lord” was a monster quote and how she pulls herself back up.
“God.” When Kailen can say it loud she says it proud. She apologized a couple times about her testimony, but the crowd loved everything about her bold talk about her spirituality. Follow and honor what you know is true was also something she made sure to mention.
Paul felt drinking and talking God while the crowd was all “Amen”s was a little um – a no no.
What’s the number one challenge in writing and how is she overcoming that with being an author? Kailen answered Paul that being authentic is the key, being okay with people not liking you is important, and preaching what you know is true is going to connect. Be true to your heart and your soul and what you know.
Breeon Say came on and “beat” Paul in a dance off, but bigger than that she asked Kailen, “What’s the greatest piece of advice you have received…” Kailen told us that “when she was sitting with Oprah…” Paul and she had a moment about the craziness of the ability to say that. Kailen said Oprah said (while holding both Paul’s and her hand) don’t ever give up on who you are. Don’t buy into the crap that surrounds you.
LaDonna was up next. “How did you decide which avenue” to travel first and second question was how did she get “Master” in front of her name. Kailen took a master’s class after 20 years of coaching. The first question she said her answer was she just always trusted that God would create a plan. She wasn’t perfect, but when she strayed she pulled her “butt” back. Kailen always wanted to show people love. She kept total faith in God and He paved and protected the way. Trusting in the pain was also important to making amazing things happen.
Words of wisdom (Wow) from Kailen: Seek leaders who are like minded, good, productive, and constructive. You need to fail; it’s okay and a part of the training. Believe and don’t give up.
Paul closed asking that we recommend #MentorMonday because early RSVP’s get better publicity for the event. He asked that we RSVP ASAP because the next event is already available and set for November 11, and if you have any ideas for the format to please let him know.
We didn’t get into Brown Sugar.
Watch the full session here:
Posted on: Oct 15, 2013
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