Your friends are your friends. Funny, thoughtful, dependable and supportive. But they aren’t therapists. They aren’t dating experts. And as the old saying goes, opinions are like “assholes” – everyone has one.
Consider the source.
Your loved ones often give bad advice. Well meaning, but awful dating advice. Because they aren’t objective. Will your friends actually tell you that you don’t know how to dress and have a hygiene issue … or will they say that a woman should just “accept you for you?” Will your friends tell you that you were overreacting when 12 hours had passed since the initial meet up and he still hadn’t texted you back … or will they encourage whatever half-baked theory has developed in your panicking mind? Our friends want to believe in us and support us and protect us, which means sometimes their advice is more about boosting our own self-esteem or validating us as a friend – instead of giving us valuable criticism you can apply to change your dating fortune.
Declare your own emotional independence – and get your friends (and family) out of your dating life. Your search for finding who is best for you is a solo journey that eventually becomes twosome when you find your potential significant other. There’s no room for a bus-load of people you aren’t dating, piling on their baggage and past conflicts.
Posted on: Aug 7, 2013
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