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Surround Yourself With Better People

Surround Yourself With Better People

If you want your situation to change, YOU have to change. The most effective strategy we can use to create lasting change is to actively surround ourselves with people who inspire us.

I want you to promise me that you will spend more time with people who motivate you to be better. Promise me!

Imagine if Barack Obama, Mark Zuckerberg, Oprah Winfrey, and Bethany Hamilton were your crew. Seriously, think about the gems of wisdom they would share, how they would never allow you to quit, the pressure they would put on you to learn more, work smarter, to be great? Just think what one year of friendship with BFFs like that would yield?

Now, think about your current crew. How far is the deficit?

Mind the gap!

I’m not telling you to drop everyone you currently run with but I am saying to do some critical analysis.

Think of the five or ten people you spend the most time with. Are you proud about what they have accomplished? Are you impressed with what they are doing now? Are they passionate about the values you have? Do they inspire you?

If the answer is ‘no’ to all of the above, then it’s time to find new friends.

The biggest single predictor of success (however you want to define it) are the people we ‘kick it with.

So before everything else, spend this year getting your crew right.

 

 

Posted on: Dec 27, 2012

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54 comments
QueenofForgiveness
QueenofForgiveness

I just have to do better with this one. I know that this is a predicate of success. But I have to get out of my comfort zone. :)

QueenofForgiveness
QueenofForgiveness

I know that this one is a predicate of success. I just have to adhere. I have to get out my comfort zone and expand.

Janice Stevenson
Janice Stevenson

I agree with Terry, because if the strong only hang out with the strong where will the weak learn to become strong? We are called to be a light in a dark world.

LYHMEDIA
LYHMEDIA

Yes..I seek to fly with  the eagles...not squander my time with the pigeons on the ground picking up scraps of bread.

Elizabeth Anderson
Elizabeth Anderson

Yes sir!!! It took me a long time to get here but that is EXACTLY what I'm going to do! Thank you for posting this.

James Johnson
James Johnson

I'm on it now! Love seeing your posts its so positive and real!

Patience Enesi
Patience Enesi

Yes great speech but those great people will not wait on me to LIKE and SHARE there page, And they will never wait for a day to help me out.

Jericho Harper
Jericho Harper

true, except most people form cliques and don't take too kind to newcomers. Either that or they are too busy getting their thing on that they don't have time for others.

Mariana R. Silva-Buck
Mariana R. Silva-Buck

Working hard to make this a reality. Always super appreciative of your suggestions, ideas and insight. #thephonecallthatchangedeverything

Terry Gunn Poff
Terry Gunn Poff

I agree in principle, but we also need to be there for people who may not have all that we have, emotionally, and need our strength and our confidence and our belief. So, we need a balance.

Daria Sidorova
Daria Sidorova

love it, so true, our surrounding is everything! :)

pretty1908
pretty1908

keeping your friendship circle provides so many benefits both emotional and spiritual

Desiree M. Mondesir
Desiree M. Mondesir

I've had to drop SEVERAL people, some even without explanation, over the past few years. It hurt and it was hard, but it was absolutely necessary. When you figure out that you're just a pretty face in someone else's entourage instead of an inspiration or "iron sharpening iron," that's usually a grand time to make your exit! "Show me your friends, and I'll show you your future!"

Joe M
Joe M

Dear all, What if our spouse are the one dragging us behind? Should we divorce them and find a better one?

Amandah T. Blackwell
Amandah T. Blackwell

Hi Paul, I love this..."Think of the five or ten people you spend the most time with. Are you proud about what they have accomplished? Are you impressed with what they are doing now? Are they passionate about the values you have? Do they inspire you?" These are great questions, but what if the people you spend the most time with are your family? What do you do then? Do you get a new family? Do you cut off your family or limit the amount of time you spend with them? What if you're a teenager? Are you supposed to get emancipated and move out on your own? Maybe. Maybe not. Family's a tough one. I think it's time we start addressing our familial ties and realize that the 'ties that bind' could choke the life out of us. We need to start with our family because they're the ones who help our conscious and unconscious minds.

Execumama
Execumama

Love the message, as always! Keep showing up; it's serving folks so well!

Jocelyn
Jocelyn

Please put a link to your blogs on your twitter feed.

MarieYoung
MarieYoung

I so def agree! Thanks for sharing. We must all remember this important lesson as we navigate through life!

Desiree M. Mondesir
Desiree M. Mondesir

No! "For better AND for worse." A spouse isn't like a car that you can sell when you're no longer happy with it. Nor is it a casual relationship that you can just drop when you don't like the direction it's headed in. Prayer and patience are ingredients for supernaturally transformation, even that of spouse who is "dragging [you] behind." I pray your situation gets MUCH better!